A question about deciding between money and life partner was asked on Pay Dirt Column. Pay Dirt Column is a platform that allows users to submit their money-related questions. Elizabeth and Athena, the operators, answer those questions without showing their real names. Although Elizabeth and Athena seem to be unknown – with no background and records – their advice and answers are pretty on point and spot on.
The question goes: “ For the last one year, I am in a relationship with a guy who is (potentially) broke. He has a significant amount of college debt. Also, he recently bought a new car with a zero-debt loan. He is currently earning very little and is about to complete his graduation” The question goes on to say: “As it has been a year that we are together, we think of getting married. But I am deeply concerned about our financial matter. I mean, if he (her boyfriend) even lands a job, it will take him a potential 12 years to repay the debt.”
“Should I marry him or abandon my relationship?”
Really difficult question. Isn’t it? Have you ever been in the same situation? After all, thinking about your finances before getting married is one of the fundamental things. Well, here is the expert answer from Elizabeth:
“Your assets and money, by no means, determine your long-term relationship with your life partner. On the other hand, if you feel stuck between money and your life partner, perhaps you should reconsider your thoughts. There are certain deeply rooted issues. I mean, give yourself enough time and see if you really LOVE the guy. If it turns out to be a yes, money should not break up your relationship.” The answer further suggests: “If you really love your partner, 10 years are not a big deal as you are deciding to live your whole life with him. Likewise, if you prefer a tiny financial issue over your boyfriend, you probably do not love him. That means you may not want to marry him.”
Furthermore, the answer hints at preferring the life partner over money. “You and your husband can have your finances separated. Your money is yours and his is his. You are not obliged to pay his debt.” It suggests.
Summing Up
When you ever find yourself in a situation where you can not decide between money and your partner, take a step back. Ask yourself: “Do I really love him (her)?” If the answer is yes, opt for the latter. No amount of money is worth your love. After all, he will not remain broke forever. Life has its own unique ways to show us the best days of our lives.